I consider myself very blessed to have my three children, but that doesn’t mean it is easy. Challenging moments arise more often than we would like and I am constantly on the go. There is never time to get everything done!
Being a mother even with one child is time consuming, and with three, your days just fly right by. Since I am an only child it was very important to me that my children have siblings. When I got pregnant with my third child, the questions and criticism came rolling in and sometimes I could not believe what was coming out of peoples’ mouths. At the time I was so offended, but now all I can do is look back and laugh. The amount of children you have is ultimately your choice and your business, so try not to take it so hard when you get those probing questions that can really push your buttons. Here are 6 questions I heard as a mom of three:
Why are you having a 3rd child? You already have a boy and girl.
Ok really!?! I wanted to say what’s it to you if I have a boy and girl. Even if I have 2 boys or 2 girls! My husband and I had always wanted multiple kids, and so we planned and chose to do so. We actually wanted to have 5 kids, but decided we were good with 3. Like I said, earlier though, it’s really none of their business so you make the choice of explaining to them or not.
Was it planned or an oopsie?
Ok seriously?!? This is a really personal question and kind of rude to ask someone. Does it really matter anyway? Just be happy for us! In our case we wanted to have multiple kids so it was planned, but again you make the choice of how you respond.
It must be really hard for you with 3? How do you do it?
Honestly, some days I don’t know how I do it, but you find the strength to get you through the day. Motherhood just kind of comes naturally whether it’s with one, three, or five kids. Having a routine can be extremely be helpful, but some days you have to learn to roll with the punches.
You need to have an even number, have one more?
From the day we got married, we said we wanted to have a big family, but after having our third child, I think that is plenty. We have been so blessed with healthy, beautiful kids and that is all we can really ask for.
You’re a stay at home mom, how do you do that??
Every mom is on their own path and one is not better or worse than the other. I have been fortunate enough to be a stay-at-home mom and I love it!! It hasn’t been easy by any means, but I have had help from my husband and our nanny, and everything has worked out all right. It is all about teamwork. Being a mom is a full time job and it is ok to ask for help.
Kids are expensive, how do you afford 3?
Again, not that it is any of their business, but we knew we wanted a big family, and so we planned for it financially and otherwise. We were prepared the best we could be and have dealt with any obstacles as they have come.
Whether you are a mom of one or a mom of multiple, you are going to get the probing questions. Try your best not to get offended, because I am sure they don’t mean it in that way. Trust me, you will look back on it and laugh, especially when you have friends venting to you about the things that they have been asked.
For those of you asking these questions, think before you speak! Put yourself in the shoes of others and see how you would feel when being asked these personal questions. It’s not easy having multiple kids but it is definitely a blessing, and I wouldn’t change a thing!