That mommy guilt you get when you get that phone call from work…”There is a mandatory meeting that requires you to travel.” The first time I had to even have that thought cross my mind, it was like this mommy guilt rush of what am I going to do? How am I going to leave my baby behind and go for work?
After 8 years of travelling for work, I will tell you it gets a lot easier. The guilt dies down and you focus more on your work than worrying about what you are not doing for your kids. Some people may take offense to me saying that, but I am a firm believer that career oriented moms should be proud of their accomplishments and strive to do better.
Every time you realize you need to travel, yes you get that initial feeling of stress, because we are moms, it happens. Thinking about their homework getting done, their activities, them eating healthy, their bed times…the list could go on…but in order for you to put your focus on your work when you travel, you gotta get into the right mindset that you are not doing anything wrong.
10 Tips for Working Moms Who Travel
- Support from your spouse: I can’t stress this enough. If you are married then make sure your significant other understands you are going for work and they support you for it. That they understand it’s your time to focus on career and you won’t be able to answer every phone call.
- Update the kids calendar: Make sure you have the right times and activities with details of locations and any notes for whoever is watching your kids. The more information you provide the easier it will be on the caregiver or your spouse. Google calendars are awesome!
- Get rid of that guilt: Get rid of that guilt before you step in that car or plane. You are not doing anything wrong. Career is important to you which means it is important to the family.
- Plan ahead: Try to plan as much as you can to prepare your spouse and caregiver for you leaving. I promise it will help you feel more at ease when you are gone.
- Facetime: I know it gets insane when you travel for work between meetings, client happy hours, getting together with coworkers. Take the time to facetime with your family at least once a day if you can. It gives you a sense of calmness that everything is OK and your family will appreciate you thinking about them. I always try to do it right before the kids go to bed if possible.
- Share your detailed travel info: Leave a packet or emails of where you are staying, your flight info and any times you know you won’t be accessible. If anything happens with the kids or you, at least your family is all on the same page.
- Plan a coming home activity: When either my husband or I travel, we always try to play something with the kids the day after we get back. We tell them all the info so they get so excited to do that activity when the family.
- Enjoy the break: Work may not seem to be a break, but read a book in your room in peace before bed. Go workout at a time you normally don’t work out or order room service in your room. Don’t feel guilty because you deserve to do things like this!